Only let us live up to what we have already attained. Phil. 3:16
Here’s the problem with the “being yourself” mantra – a lot of people don’t know who they are in the first place!
The reality is that due to the epidemic of traumatic experiences early on in life‚ many of us never come to this “knowing” who we are. For example‚ we were never given the space‚ the affirmation and nurture we needed early on in life. But we learn how to cope.
Then we expect someone else later on in life to “fix” what another man or woman (maternal or paternal figure) broke or didn’t build up and solve the “who am I” mistery for us.
Can’t happen! What one man (or woman) broke‚ another one can’t fix.
Only hope is in letting go of the false self and letting God & people who truly care and have been affirmed themselves (not in word only) to affirm who they see you to be in Him!
Turns out it’s a journey‚ not an event.
So we need to figure out if we want to take the journey alone or share it with someone else (as in marriage‚ friendship‚ business partnerships‚ etc.) And if you do decide to share the journey with others‚ be respectful to their process as you expect them to be to your own. Cross the boundaries once‚ twice…or more – don’t be surprised if you’re asked to get off the bus! No one likes being punished for the pain someone else has inflicted on you!
Be strong as u press in on your way of discovering who you are!
“Brothers‚ I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead…” Phil. 3:13
[amazing insights come to those who jog early morning, clear their minds and commune with the One who made the sun and all!] 🙂